Intelligent Conversations Book Study
January 14, 2019 @ 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm
An event every week that begins at 1:00pm on Monday, repeating until January 28, 2019
Troubled friendships hurt. Most of us base our feelings of self worth, at least in part, on our friendships with other people. It’s no fun to argue or fight with someone you care about. Even a feud with someone you don’t care about can eat away at you and rob you of energy and joy.
Communication seems easy, and we all think we’re experts. After all, you’ve been talking since you were a child, and it comes naturally most of the time. You just open your mouth and the words come spilling out. When you feel happy and close to someone, it is easy to communicate well. You feel good, they feel good and everything is rosy.
It’s when you have a strong disagreement or a conflict with someone that you find out whether you can really communicate well. How well do you do when you’re angry, or when someone is angry with you ? How do you deal with criticism ? What do you say when the other person is being unreasonable and refuses to listen to your point of view ? How well do you communicate when you feel vulnerable and hurt ?
People who can communicate effectively in these situations are exceedingly rare. But these are the situations where good communication is vital. The key to good friendship, and success in business is the ability to handle conflict successfully. People have enormous difficulty with this. Husbands and wives do not always communicate well, friends often don’t communicate well, family members often handle conflicts and disagreements very poorly.
Whether you’re a mum or a dad, a husband or a wife, a son or a daughter, a friend or close work colleague, if you want to have better relationships with those you love and those you work with, then this MeetUp is for you. However, it is not for the faint hearted, as it is a “Full on Personal Development” MeetUp, and you will need a copy of the book titled “Feeling Good Together”.
We spend most of the meeting time doing “Role Plays” of what is taught in the book, and even though at times it is Personally Very Challenging, the rewards for putting in the hard yards, and developing superb interpersonal skills are enormous, and can literally be life changing.
“Feeling Good Together” is the work of Dr David Burns who is currently Adjunct Clinical Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences at the Stanford University School of Medicine, where he is actively involved in research and teaching. He has spent over 30,000 hours helping people, and out of it has developed a scientifically-proven method of how to communicate effectively in all situations.
I’m not a therapist or an expert communicator, I’m like you, fed up with not having really good relationships, know the key is effective communications, and I’m excited about becoming a really good communicator. So join me, Stewart Coad and let’s develop the skills by practising with each other.
The meetings are free, however for those who can afford it, a donation to help cover the running expenses of the group will be appreciated.